Thursday, January 31, 2013
One of my biggest issues being a stay at home mom is probably the same issue I had while I was a working mom. The issue is time! I never seemed to have enough time to do anything, especially house work! I think I have found a way that regardless of what kind of mom I am (stay at home/working), I can manage my time better. I have read countless of blogs and this one in particular gave me an idea! 15 minutes of cleaning-Organizingmadefun Even though I did not follow her schedule it was a way for me to come up with my own schedule (Sort of!)
Since I did not follow her schedule, I do not expect you to follow mine. This is just a way to show you that IT CAN BE DONE!!! You just have to customize it in a way that works for you. Below is a schedule that I came up with for my household:
This schedule is based on just 15 minutes of cleaning (I actually have a timer set for 15 minutes). Like Becky +Organizingmadefun.blogspot.com mentions, “this doesn't mean if your house is right now a complete pig-stye mess that you can get it cleaned up in 15 minutes. NOPE! Nice try....this is a way of MAINTAINING your home with just 15 minutes of CLEANING each day - not picking up or putting away, CLEANING!” You have to keep at it however, if you miss a day it is not the end of the world. If you make this a habit your house will be at least presentable at any given moment. I live in a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom s (1,210 sq. ft.) apartment with 3 boys (ages from 13 months, 7 yrs. & 34 yrs.).
My weekdays vary, however, I find 15 minutes (usually while the baby is taking a nap in the morning) to clean. I also have daily chores that I call “Habitual”, I do it out of habit. These things I do not consider cleaning because I had to condition myself to just do it at the moment, not find time to do it.
The reason I did this schedule the way I did is because I do my heavy, deep cleaning once every two weeks (at least that is the goal.) Usually on the Saturday morning when my oldest is at his fathers’ house for the weekend is the best time for us to clean. This allows me and my partner to clean together and help with the baby at the same time. This makes the job easier and faster. I am lucky that I have him to actually help me but I believe that this still can be done if you didn’t have a helpful partner. (I was a single mom for about 4 yrs.) If you kept the daily 15 minutes cleaning your house will not be as hard to do your deep cleaning in one day. This day I REALLY scrub the bathrooms and kitchen, top to bottom! We clean the balcony. Robert deep cleans (shampoos) the carpets with our Hoover® SteamVac™ Deep Cleaner with Clean Surge. (I was not paid to advertise this, I have been using ours for over 8 yrs., I love it!!!) Also, I usually use this day to go through the kids clothes and/or do an organizational project.
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
It has been about 8 months since I have written a post and I miss the good feeling I get when I write something in the hope that I may help out someone else. The reason for the time away is because I have had some major life changes. I quit my job trying to change career. Then decided I was going to give myself more time to prepare for my new career and stay home longer with my boys. I always knew that my life was way too full and I really needed to prioritize!
Now, I am not saying go out and quit your job! This decision was not an easy decision for me or my partner. However, for us I think it was the right one. Back in July, I really fell apart. I was so unhappy with just about everything I was doing. I did not like my job. I missed my new born baby during the day so much and I felt I was neglecting my older son in the evenings. Home life was a mess and we just did not have time for anything and we were too tired to care.
I have always wanted to be a teacher. I can remember playing as a young girl and pretending to be a teacher to my dolls and stuffed animals. I never had a doubt when people asked me "What do you want to be when you grow up?" I always knew the answer was a teacher! However, as most people know, life happens. I did start college with a pursuit of a degree in Secondary Social Science Education. Towards the end of my Schooling I got a divorce and was suddenly a single mom without a job. I searched and searched like a maniac to find ANY job. I was really blessed when I was offered a career in Finance for a really well known and established Television Channel. The downfall was that I have always
math a whole lot. I have struggled with numbers my whole life. Well, I did not
have the luxury of being choosy and I knew that this was a great opportunity
for me to be able to provide for my 1 year old and me. It turned out to be ok.
I learned tons and continued there for 6 yrs. During this time I was not able
to continue my education degree because I was not going to be able to do the
student teaching that was necessary to graduate. So, in my senior year I
changed major to Liberal Arts and finally graduated with a Bachelor’s degree.
When I met Robert, I knew he was an amazing man right from the beginning. He has always been a supportive and loving person to my son, Brandon and I. We were blessed a couple of years later with our precious little baby, Austin. Things were manageable because we made it work but I was just not happy with the kind of lifestyle I was living. I did not feel that this is what life was all about for us. I knew we could change things, but I also knew it was not going to be an easy journey. I looked over our home finances extensively and I knew that it was not going to be easy but it was definitely not impossible to live on his income alone. Robert and I spoke tremendously about my unhappiness and he did not fail to be the supportive boyfriend he has always been. He encouraged me to follow my dreams. So I made the scary jump and became a stay at home mom.
We have cut down on unnecessary expenses and tried to budget ourselves. Without Daycare, extra gas, going out for lunch and dinners we have found a comfortable spending habit. We are still trying to work on our budget because we have been so used to living on two incomes that it has been a major life style change for us and we do not have it perfect yet. However, the time I am spending with and for my family is making me so much happier than money can ever make me. Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job I have ever had and the most rewarding. This is not a job for everyone. For me though, it has been the best decision I have made so far.
In the meantime, I am studying for my education certification. (I have 3 tests to take to become certified) I am trying to figure out my new stay at home schedule with my now 1 year old. I am also, after schooling with my 7 yr. old son, 7 yr. old nephew and 8 yr. old niece. As if that is not enough, I am also trying to organize my home, creating a cleaning schedule, meal planning and nurturing all of my relationships. Follow me in all of my new pursuit. Maybe we can encourage each other. Especially since I know I might need a lot of help to get this all together. One day at a time...